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"Times New="New" Roman"">现在怕过年,怕小辈叫我,那不是白叫的,得给压岁钱。春节各地习俗不尽相同,压岁钱却是相同。长辈给晚辈,挣钱的给不挣钱的,结婚的给未结婚。对我这个海外穷人,压岁钱成了负担,令人心惊肉跳。压岁钱数额也水涨船高,年年见涨。现在几百块一份的压岁钱会让白眼,上千块一两份 还能承担,可架不住一连串平时无任何往来的小辈叫我叔叔大爷。现在过年,于我少了些期待却多了份责任, 而我总扮演不好自己的角色。压岁钱表面上是发给晚辈的,实际上是长辈间的俗不可耐的人情世故。我曾瞎想,我要是有百八十个孩子,那该多好。过年开辆面包车,拉上一车孩子到处串门,一路叫爷爷奶奶叔叔阿姨,那应该是个很好的敛钱路子。说穿了,怕派发压岁钱还是自己太穷。过年期间,钱包眼看着越来越瘪。春节已成了春劫。
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